Love is … I am not…


Love is patient, I thought I was but then adulthood happened                   Love is kind, I rarely am                                                                                                     It does not envy, guilty of the opposite                It does not boast, In my defense, I am subtle It does not dishonor others, I haven’t bothered to ask It is not self-seeking, (What… I can’t hear you, hellooo) It is not easily angered, does not yelling count It keeps no record of wrongs, ur kidding right Does not delight in evil but rejoices with the truth, “evil laugh” Always protects, just when I don’t get hurt              Always hopes, pessimism is my middle name               Always perseveres, ummm too much work            Never fails, Everybody hurts , sometimes….

Do we really have to love this way? Why is it so hard to love this way?Is it only my responsibility? Can I expect to be loved this way? I hope you are struggling with these questions as well. I don’t want to be the only evil one around.

Happy Thinking



Listening: The Chinese Way

Recently, I was involved in a project which works to promote Mental Health and works alongside people with Psycho Social Disabilities. It was an interesting experience.

There is an increasing awareness globally on Mental Health, it has been included in the Sustainable Development Goals and there have been some portrayals of the real problems in movies and social media. This is a positive step toward dealing with stigma and Mental Health. But the number of people affected with Psycho social disability is still alarming high and a significant percentage of people are denied care either due to inaccessibility or unavailability of care. Along with this is , there is a even higher percentage of people who are at risk everyday and who need urgent attention as well.

Often we are shocked by the numbers and reports but are unsure what to do or we become immune or indifferent. With this alarming increase, pro activeness is required on all our parts since every number has a face, a story and when we sit down to listen we might be actually able to help someone and make a difference. This is just to remind us all on the importance of stopping and listening in this fast paced world.

Listening does not happen automatically, we hear but we might not be listening. It is a skill which has to be developed and consciously practiced. I came cross an interesting reminder on listening, in a book I was reading and thought I’ll share it , so read on to find out

The Chinese symbol of listening has several components


Ear – What you use to listen   (hear)
King = Pay attention as if the other person were king
Ten and Eye = Be observant as if you had ten eyes
One = Listen with individual attention
Heart = Listen also with your heart (in addition to ear and eye)

This captures the essence of active listening, the crucial step to help someone.

People might not always use their words to convey what they are feeling, if we care about somebody, we might have to use more than our ears to listen.

So listen the Chinese way, make a difference, save a life.

The not so easy life…

Life is a journey

It is not always easy

There are thorns and bumps

And unexpected storms

But as long as you are moving

As long as you are learning

Life gets interesting

Don’t always wish for easy

It might get messy

Coz it’s rough seas that make good sailors

Difficult road lead to beautiful destinations

keep walking

Live , live , laugh,learn

Take the road less taken

It might be worth after all

If you have chosen a difficult path, be it a career you are passionate about, a relationship you want to see through, sacrifices you make time and again, investment in lives that seem hopeless and various other things,  keep going, you will come out stronger.  Just remember to live, love,laugh and learn along the way.

Happy Reading …